In 2012, my brother Lance was killed by a texting driver on his way home from the gym. He had just left me a voicemail telling me to call him back and “show me some love” and I called back minutes later… but he was already gone. That huge loss in my life changed everything for me. For the better, and a few things for the worse. Out of my… Read More »Finding strength to move through grief with creativity
True or false: Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. I think it’s the best way to kick off the weekend. But I don’t always have time for a big breakfast during the workweek. That’s why I like to take my time on Saturday mornings, before the Farmer’s Market to make a big batch of Biscuits and Gravy. Click HERE to go to the recipe Why Biscuits… Read More »Southern Vegetarian: My Grandmother’s Biscuit and Gravy Recipe Revisited
When I was a little girl, living in rural Tennessee, the story of the Bell Witch was as common as any story ever told. The Witch was real and so was her trail of death and terror. The haunting of the Bell family by the famed witch was both a story of how to treat your neighbors and a fairly amazing ghost story. Because the story of the Bell Witch… Read More »The Bell Witch
I have a special friend who lives with Depression. There are days when I wake up wondering if he will still be alive when I go to check on him on Facebook. I know a few people with clinical depression. But he is the one that I watch the most.
I love succulents. They are so adorable and I have them all through my house. One of the reasons I adore having them around is that they give the room a fresh living feel without the fuss that other plants often require. Today I wanted to change up my succulents, give them some new personality. While I was at the garden store recently I found a few little things that I… Read More »Sassy Succulents- How To Make A Tiny Succulent Garden
When people ask us how we met, we always smile and usually we look at each other. I’m not sure why it’s just a reaction I guess. We used to be a little nervous about telling people we met in a chat room. Now sites like Match.com make finding a mate online common and acceptable. In the 90’s when we met, it was new territory and a little scary. The… Read More »+1 to Romance – How I Met My Husband
There are few seasons l like more than summer, but Fall is quickly starting feel like the place where I want to be. It’s growing on me, year after year I find something else that draws me into the embrace of Fall’s enchantment. Summer was my season. I love the warm lazy days, sleeping in late, and don’t forget the fireflies. Summer has it’s own vacation title, people go away… Read More »Falling for Fall
It has been raining and snowing for months. In fact this has been one of the wettest and snowiest winters on record in the Seattle area. And I am done with it!
This week’s Latte is in honor of another cold damp yet wonderful place to visit – London!
There are reasons for WHAT I do. I write because I feel I am.. a Writer. But WHY I walk towards that life is very different. (This post includes affiliate links. Should you click an affiliate link and make a purchase I may make a small commission at no extra cost to you.) “When you know your ‘Why’, your ‘What’ has more impact, because you’re walking in or towards your… Read More »Why I Write
I LOVE a good Latte. At home, I have an espresso machine and my husband and I love finding new flavors to try out. Admittedly I am the one more likely to try out a crazy flavor combo than he is, but together we have collected a lot of great recipes. This morning I was making one of my favorites, the Almond Raspberry latte and I thought it would be… Read More »Almond Raspberry CBD Latte
I am the bearer of guilt. Not just growing up guilt that we are all given as children, but the guilt I gave to myself. I don’t believe that self-guilt is primarily a woman’s affliction. Women are the loudest about their burdens. We like to talk about them, regret things, and ponder them out loud for discussion. While men tend to clam up and silently carry around their guilt. However,… Read More »5 Things You Should Forgive Yourself For, but probaly wont.
The youngest of our 5 is about to be a sophomore in high school this year. And as I was reminiscing about how fast these last 15 years have gone for her, I realized that I only have a few more years left to make sure she is ready to take those important steps into her own adult world. The Teens are now preparing for life away from home. This… Read More »10 Life Skills Teens Should Know Before Going To College
I found this letter that I’d written to myself many years ago. It broke my heart to see that I was in that place. I think we all have these moments when we feel like everything we tried to do wasn’t right at all. That girl so many years ago, alone and struggling to be a single mother and raising two little boys, she was so strong and never had… Read More »Confessions from a bad mother.
In the practice of mindfulness, there are moments where your mind grabs on to something and won’t let go. Sometimes it’s an emotion, a song, even a moment in time that needs resolution. Part of mindfulness is addressing the self with humility and addressing that there are things that you are not good at, you will make mistakes, and you will fail and that will cause a reaction for others. … Read More »Mindfulness And Finding Flaws
Love and pain, beautiful and heartbreaking. Truth. These are dancing words. Poet Neil Hilborn shared his emotional dance with the world. Now around the world people are nodding their heads with tears and cheers for his piece about living and loving with OCD. Neil Hilborn performed ‘OCD’ in June during the individual finals at the 2013 Rustbelt Regional Poetry Slam. I haven’t been a fan of poetry, but this piece… Read More »Poet Neil Hilborn “OCD”
This post contains affiliate links that I make a small commission on with no added fee to your purchase. I knew something was different that day. I wasn’t sure what it was, perhaps the weather was about to change again, perhaps there would be snow. Yes, that would be a welcome change from this hot and sticky air. All day I went to the window and looked out and waited… Read More »Perhaps today will snow
I know that posts haven’t been as regular as they should be. I’ve just been a bit tired and distracted. Call it the holiday blues, the winter slow down, stress, or whatever name you want to give it. I’ve just been tired and distracted. Many of my readers know that I have Chronic Lyme Disease. I have this strong belief that the more you focus on being ill, the sicker… Read More »How To Manage Exhausting Holiday Stress and Chronic Lyme Disease.
When I was little, I loved Snoopy and Charlie Brown. I looked forward to the holiday traditions of watching Snoopy and the gang remind us of the importance of being kind, looking out for each other, and the true meanings of the holidays. Sadly this year I didn’t want to watch The Great Pumpkin. Maybe it was because our children have all become too grown-up or too busy… Read More »Childhood Memories – The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown
The last few months have been pretty stressful for me as we prepare to move across the country and build a new house. For various reasons I often feel like I forget how to relax and trust that it will be ok. I allow conflict and complication to come into my life. Now I can say that I didn’t set out to look for crazy people to wander into my… Read More »Holding On To Your Happy Place
Dosie.Rose – a shout out to the kids with chubby cheeks and big noses, with crooked or chipped teeth and chapped lips
I read this post this morning and it brought me to tears. This is such a brave, beautiful girl, reaching out to the world and daring them to think differently. (I can’t figure out my feelings for this picture) ✨ shout out to the kids with chubby cheeks and big noses, with crooked or chipped teeth and chapped lips, with round faces and long necks, small and thin lips and… Read More »Dosie.Rose – a shout out to the kids with chubby cheeks and big noses, with crooked or chipped teeth and chapped lips
I should tell you what exactly the 9’s are. The 9’s are 19,29,39,49 ect… that year before the big change in your life. That year when you try to wrap it all up and make it look like the last 9 years you spent doing something lasting and memorable, those are the 9’s.
There have been times that I truly wish could have lingered on a little longer. Moments when I knew this was one of the best moments of my life and I wanted to hold on to them. Sometimes in daydreams I go back in time, trying to feel that specialness again. They sit on the protected shelves in the halls of my memories and from time to time I take… Read More »Let it Linger
Our family used to be the typical get up at dawn, grab donuts and stand in line in front of the department store kind of gang every Black Friday. We would load up in the minivan with the kids still full from the Thanksgiving feast, bundled up against the chilly November air and set off at 7 a.m. I would always have my first eggnog of the season and… Read More »Being an empty-nest parent changed my Black Friday traditions
I love cooking a big Sunday meal for everyone. Growing up Southern, Sundays meant getting up early and heading to church. Then we’d head home and my Gram would make an early dinner. Usually those meals were her chicken fried steak, greens, potatoes, biscuits, and if I was lucky she’d make my favorite fried apple hand pies. But in my household now, most of us are vegetarians and I… Read More »Weekend Recipe- Broccoli Tortellini
I wrote this a few years ago after my best friend and “brother” died. I just didn’t know how I was going to get through this horrible feeling called grief. I took to writing as a way of getting all of those emotions out of my head and setting them free. What I learned was that there are so many people out there trying to figure out how to cope… Read More »Tuesday
Dear people who pretend to be your friend and then talk shit about you on Facebook, Wow, what a world we have turned into. People walk around spewing crap and pretending that they know what they are talking about all the while smiling and pretending they are your good friends. How good it must make you feel to slam your friends in a public forum to get someone upset and… Read More »Dear people who pretend to be your friend and then talk shit about you on Facebook,
I wrote this August 5th 2015… after being told AGAIN that my mother was on her deathbed. She had a habit of “dying” and after a few years of going through hell with the emotional roller coaster, I stopped getting on the ride. It took me a while to stop looking back to see if I had done the right thing and a lot of tears when I wasn’t… Read More »Making peace and saying good-bye
A few years ago, my best friend and brother died tragically in an accident. I struggled to figure out how I was going to make it through such a terrible event in my life and I turned to writing as an outlet. Writing, art, music, all are healing and really helped me to leg go for a while and slip into my thoughts without them taking over my life. Grief is hard, it is… Read More »3 – looking at grief in moments of 3.
I’m not sure if it is because I am a creative person or perhaps growing up religious opens my mind up to the possibilities, but I believe in the Afterlife. I am a spiritual person. I always have been. I believe in spirits, Angels, lives before this one, and Karma. I have a fondness for the teachings of Wiccans, Jewish Kabbalah, and even a brief understanding of several… Read More »Thoughts About The Afterlife
Here’s the Wow story of the day. Fellow blogger, Victoria has a new blog about her life and this amazing adventure she’s on. At first I was pretty sure she was going to say she and her husband were trust fund babies living the hippie life, however read til the end to see how I was surprised.
When we got married, we had a lot of crazy things on our minds. For us, it was already complicated. We started things off by throwing every obstacle in the world at our marriage. We launched right into having a family, not a small one.. one cute kid and a dog, but a large one ending in 5 kids, dogs, cats, and a ton of debt that we managed to… Read More »In sickness and in health
Before I head out on a new travel adventure, I like to look through the travel guides to see what recommendations I should make sure are on my list of MUST DO’s. They are usually a great way to make sure you can fill your itinerary with local highlights. I love being a tourist and seeing the treasures of a town as well as an explorer and discovering local favorites… Read More »My Travel Guide Didn’t Say THAT!
16… I believed him when he said he loved me. Believed that word meant something powerful and important. The way he cupped my face, held me there so I wouldn’t back away, kissed me as if he needed that kiss to save him. My heart beat so hard in my chest, made my blood rush with pulses of electricity in my veins as he looked down at me with those… Read More »16
When you cross the 40-year line, there are certain expectations that you put on yourself. These are things that you forgave yourself for not being so good at when you were in your 20s, or maybe even your 30s. I thought “40 years old” was a finishing line, the place that marks when you are a “mature adult” — when you have all of your beans together. I had some… Read More »7 Things I thought I’d be better at by the time I was 40
No matter who we are, our life choices, or the number of people we are surrounded by, all of us want to know that we are not alone. We want people in our lives that know us for who we really are and love us in spite of knowing. We call those people family. It used to be that you were bound together first by blood, then by clan, and… Read More »Family by Choice
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I'm a mother of five kids who somehow all managed to make it through infancy, toddlerhood, tweens, teens and some even into their 20s. I know firsthand that if there are rules to break, you will at some point break them before they leave the nest. Before becoming a mother, I had the list of rules that I would never break as a parent. Things that I swore I would do differently than my own upbringing went on that list.
I swore I'd never send my child to bed without dinner. I'd never scream at them. I'd never raise a hand to them. I'd be nice all of the time. However, the reality is that there are moments when those rules bend. My children, four boys and finally a little girl, were not angels. In fact, each of them challenged not only my parenting, but my sanity.
I loved passing by her bedroom in the mornings, she was always immersed in a magical world of her own creating. Her friends would be ready for tea, packed for a vacation, or settled down for a story time, just where she placed them. Silly bear, quacking duck, and baby Ben the weird baby doll that had been given to her by the neighbor child across the street, all were… Read More »Teaparties
It is not flesh and blood, but heart which makes us fathers and sons. ~ Friedrich von Schiller. One of my boys, Harry, is getting married in a few weeks. And even though this isn’t shocking news, it is something that leaves me conflicted and thoughtful. How is it possible that in just a few short weeks, one of my boys will be standing in front of friends and family… Read More »Mother of the Groom
This morning I was asked about my choice to be an observant Jew to a friend. She asked about my rituals surrounding Yom Kippur. Even though she doesn’t fully understand it, she was lovely and asking some great questions in order to get to know me better. I tried to keep my answers simple and not start off with my long love of Judaism starting with my first love and… Read More »Yom Kippur – my thoughts about Neil Diamond, Brisket, and going to temple
25 years ago I became a teen mother. This was not the life I expected, planned for all through my childhood, or thought would make my family proud. I was 17 years old, no boyfriend, no baby skills, and was facing a life where people looked at me like I should be ashamed of myself because I had “made a mistake” and gotten MYSELF pregnant. This is my teen pregnancy… Read More »A Word To Pregnant Teens – You Will Be Okay
She loved hummingbirds. We always had feeders filled with sugar water tinted ruby red for her little friends. My Gram would point them out, knew them all by their colors and personalities. I always loved the blue and green ones the best. Sitting on the front porch in our rocking chairs, she’d sip her iced tea and watch the little guys come buzzing up to the feeders. She had two… Read More »Hummingbirds
Like so many, I have always struggled with the concept of family and that historical bond that is said to connect people together and give them some sense of pride and bonding. Yet in my own history I’ve seen blood family have little more to do with each other than passing strangers or childhood friends, such connections were not part of my world. Blood connections were there, but not a… Read More »Kindred connections
When I was little my best friend was old. Not just older, she was OLD. In fact she was my best friend until I was an adult and the whole time I knew her she was old. But not old and boring, she was far from that. I mean she was from a different place in time old. I loved her so much that I adopted being old for myself. We… Read More »Old
Dear You Know Who You are,
I forgive you for dying and leaving me here in this world without a clue as to how I am going to be able to get through a whole day without seeing something that reminds me of you and missing you even more.
“Crying is all right in its way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Silver Chair We are all there sometimes, when it feels as if there is nothing left in your soul but hurt. It hurts to think; each thought just rips open your heart and leads to more pain.… Read More »Cry til you can’t anymore…
In August 2012, I lost my best friend in a terrible accident. He was so important to me and I was so freaking mad after a few months that people started to worry about me. So after a few months I went to a therapist to try to feel better. She tried to explain the steps of grief to me and I explained that I knew all of that and… Read More »His Letter to Me – A letter of grief, friendship, and letting go… sort of.
The Boulder County Coroner’s Office today identified the motorcyclist killed in a collision with an SUV on 30th Street last week as Lance Gurney, 40. At 4:53 p.m. Aug. 21, a woman driving a 2000 Lexus SUV told police she was pulling out of a private parking lot driveway and attempting to make a left turn onto northbound 30th Street near O’Neal Parkway. She told police she thought she had… Read More »Gone too soon.
Today my week ended differently than it usually does. We spent time at the Har Sinai cemetary with the kids from the synagogue. Honestly this was something I had been trying to get out of doing. I didn’t like the idea of spending my day at a cemetary. It seemed depressing and not the way I wanted to end my week. But that wasn’t the kind of example I wanted to set for my… Read More »Let me remember you