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Finding strength to move through grief with creativity

In 2012, my brother Lance was killed by a texting driver on his way home from the gym.  He had just left me a voicemail telling me to call him back and “show me some love” and I called back minutes later… but he was already gone. That huge loss in my life changed everything for me.  For the better, and a few things for the worse.  Out of my… Read More »Finding strength to move through grief with creativity

Thoughts on Dry Gagging – fighting depression

I have a special friend who lives with Depression. There are days when I wake up wondering if he will still be alive when I go to check on him on Facebook. I know a few people with clinical depression. But he is the one that I watch the most.

Goat Cheese and Chocolate Balsamic glazed veggie burgers

Dinner is my favorite time to create.  I put on some music, sip a little wine, and let the aromas of the kitchen come to life.  But sometimes I don’t feel like spending an hour or more in the kitchen and something quick fits much better. So something as simple as a burger can become even better with some time and effort. One night I felt creative, looking through the… Read More »Goat Cheese and Chocolate Balsamic glazed veggie burgers

Perhaps today will snow

This post contains affiliate links that I make a small commission on with no added fee to your purchase. I knew something was different that day.  I wasn’t sure what it was, perhaps the weather was about to change again, perhaps there would be snow. Yes, that would be a welcome change from this hot and sticky air. All day I went to the window and looked out and waited… Read More »Perhaps today will snow

The 9’s

I should tell you what exactly the 9’s are.  The 9’s are 19,29,39,49 ect…  that year before the big change in your life.  That year when you try to wrap it all up and make it look like the last 9 years you spent doing something lasting and memorable, those are the 9’s.

Tuesday

I wrote this a few years ago after my best friend and “brother” died.  I just didn’t know how I was going to get through this horrible feeling called grief. I took to writing as a way of getting all of those emotions out of my head and setting them free. What I learned was that there are so many people out there trying to figure out how to cope… Read More »Tuesday

Thoughts About The Afterlife

    I’m not sure if it is because I am a creative person or perhaps growing up religious opens my mind up to the possibilities, but I believe in the Afterlife. I am a spiritual person.  I always have been.  I believe in spirits, Angels, lives before this one, and Karma.  I have a fondness for the teachings of  Wiccans, Jewish Kabbalah, and even a brief understanding of several… Read More »Thoughts About The Afterlife

Family by Choice

No matter who we are, our life choices, or the number of people we are surrounded by, all of us want to know that we are not alone. We want people in our lives that know us for who we really are and love us in spite of knowing. We call those people family. It used to be that you were bound together first by blood, then by clan, and… Read More »Family by Choice

Yom Kippur – my thoughts about Neil Diamond, Brisket, and going to temple

This morning I was asked about my choice to be an observant Jew to a friend. She asked about my rituals surrounding Yom Kippur. Even though she doesn’t fully understand it, she was lovely and asking some great questions in order to get to know me better. I tried to keep my answers simple and not start off with my long love of Judaism starting with my first love and… Read More »Yom Kippur – my thoughts about Neil Diamond, Brisket, and going to temple

Kindred connections

Like so many, I have always struggled with the concept of family and that historical bond that is said to connect people together and give them some sense of pride and bonding.  Yet in my own history I’ve seen blood family have little more to do with each other than passing strangers or childhood friends, such connections were not part of my world. Blood connections were there, but not a… Read More »Kindred connections

His Letter to Me – A letter of grief, friendship, and letting go… sort of.

In August 2012, I lost my best friend in a terrible accident. He was so important to me and I was so freaking mad after a few months that people started to worry about me. So after a few months I went to a therapist to try to feel better. She tried to explain the steps of grief to me and I explained that I knew all of that and… Read More »His Letter to Me – A letter of grief, friendship, and letting go… sort of.

Gone too soon.

The Boulder County Coroner’s Office today identified the motorcyclist killed in a collision with an SUV on 30th Street last week as Lance Gurney, 40. At 4:53 p.m. Aug. 21, a woman driving a 2000 Lexus SUV told police she was pulling out of a private parking lot driveway and attempting to make a left turn onto northbound 30th Street near O’Neal Parkway. She told police she thought she had… Read More »Gone too soon.

Let me remember you

Today my week ended differently than it usually does. We spent time at the Har Sinai cemetary with the kids from the synagogue. Honestly this was something I had been trying to get out of doing. I didn’t like the idea of spending my day at a cemetary. It seemed depressing and not the way I wanted to end my week. But that wasn’t the kind of example I wanted to set for my… Read More »Let me remember you