Gone too soon.

The Boulder County Coroner’s Office today identified the motorcyclist killed in a collision with an SUV on 30th Street last week as Lance Gurney, 40.

At 4:53 p.m. Aug. 21, a woman driving a 2000 Lexus SUV told police she was pulling out of a private parking lot driveway and attempting to make a left turn onto northbound 30th Street near O’Neal Parkway. She told police she thought she had enough time to safely make the turn, but Gurney — traveling southbound on 30th Street — did not have time to stop.

Witnesses on scene attempted CPR, but Gurney was declared dead at Boulder Community Hospital. Investigators say he was wearing a helmet.

The driver of the SUV, whose name was not released, was not injured. The accident is still under investigation, and no citations have been issued at this time, according to Kim Kobel, a spokeswoman with the Boulder Police Department.

An autopsy for Gurney has been completed, and Boulder County Coroner Emma Hall will determine the official cause and manner of death.

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  1. I am so very VERY sorry for your loss.. I found your blog thru Val’s – she and I are living the same loss, my fiancé died just a day after her husband. I’m so sorry to be getting to know you this way, but I’m so grateful still to get to know you through your beautiful sharing about your brother and your journey. Thank you friend.

    • Thank you. It’s such an odd thing, you know? I mean, people have passed, I’ve lost people. But they were old, you knew they were going to go. Young people, healthy young, amazing people are NOT supposed to suddenly be ripped out of your life and leave you so stunned that you feel like you body doesn’t even belong to you.

      I am so sorry you lost your Fiancé, I can’t even begin to imagine the hell you must be going through and how you start to rebuild your life when you were just planning a new one with you love.

      I am sure you have heard a hundred times, ” If there is anything I can do..” But here is what I can do… I can listen, I can read, and I can let you vent your head off. That is what we can do for each other. Thanks Sarah for your kindness.

      • i LOVE when wordpress just deletes my freaking messages when I’m about to hit SEND. ARG!!!

        Well to try and recap, thank you for writing back. I can so relate to how you describe so many things… especially the annoyance of the mornign trying to pour sunshine all over you when you’re heart is just in darkness. You’ve captured so many things I’ve gone through these past months so very well.

        Thank you for sharing and your support. And it goes right back to you – i’m always here to listen when you need to vent or cry or scream. And i look forward to being a support to you by reading along with you on your beautiful blog. Here is to new friends.. sad how we met, but i am still grateful.

        • Ugh it was doing it to me when trying to respond. I had to do it from the dashboard!

          But I am glad we met too. There are reasons we come into the lives of others. We are going to kick grief’s ass! I totally refuse to let it get the best of me and I am not letting it get you or anyone else if I can help it either!

          I am glad we met, Sarah. We will get through this and be better for it.

  2. I was having lunch with one of my co-workers recently. She was telling me about her mom passing and how her father was trying to cope through connecting with other widows. The father said that it sucks to being a part of this group — the group of people who watch their loved ones pass while we stay here to deal with the pain.

    And let me tell you, he’s right — it SUCKS!

    Crysta, I am so sorry that you have lost your best friend and brother, Lance, and Sarah I am sorry that you’ve lost your best friend and fiance, Andrew. I can’t imagine the depth of pain that both of you are experiencing. Especially, when good souls are taken from us suddenly and at such a young age. There’s a quote by Sheldon Vanuken that has helped me explain the pain when I try to explain to others who do not understand what I’m feeling: “How could one person, not very big, leave an emptiness that is galaxy-wide?”

    Although I am not thankful for the reason, I am thankful to have the opportunity to meet, connect with you. I still believe that everything happens for a reason and that when we lose someone in death we gain new and deeper friendships in return to help us cope. I’ve found myself shaking my head a lot as I’ve read through your posts. So, know that I am here if you need anything – whether it is to vent or to share.

    We will get through this.

  3. Crystal, my name is Earl and I used to work with Lance at O’Hare when he worked there. We became very good friends and I just recently found out about his untimely death. I’m so sorry for your families loss. He was a great guy who stood for what was right even if it didn’t benefit him. Though I wasn’t able to render my condolences at the time of your loss, I just wanted you to know there are people out here who were very fond of Lance and to say I will miss him lots. We would get together when he would return to the area and just chat. What a shock, I was wondering why I hadn’t heard from him in a while. How sad to find out why.

    • I am so sorry that you had to learn of his death this way. Lance loved working at O’Hare and spoke fondly of the people he met there.

      He was indeed a great man. A rare one who would go down swinging if it meant saving someone else or doing the right thing. His death came as such a shock to us that I don’t think that anyone really looked up from grief until recently. I love hearing these stories of how he touched other lives. I will pass them on to his family.

      He loved Chicago and leaving there was one of the hardest things he ever did. I know that he had a warm place in his heart for all of the friends he had there and to me, Lance will always be a part of Chicago.

      I hope you are doing well, and again… thank you for reaching out.

      ~ C ~

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